I Got Served!

Today I am headed to the mainland to teach some yoga!!!!! Yes!!!! At Oxygen Yoga and Fitness Chilliwack both tonight and tomorrow night. And it is just what I need, because today “I Got Served” with divorce papers.

This is not a sad day, it is actually a great day. I have been married to the father of mychildren for 14 really great years. Our marriage, I believe, has been happier than many, mainly because we haven’t been together for most of those years. Our marriage has saved me from marrying other people, most importantly. We have also supported each other through countless breakups, daily drama and most importantly co-parented 2 really fucking amazing and phenomenal children. And it is coming to an end. It’s like another huge step on this really crazy journey.

What could the lesson be here? Letting go. Closing a door on one thing to open it up for another. I am afraid to fill this empty partner spot right now, but what I am figuring out is that I never really emptied it. I have kept it half filled with this marriage, with who I needed at the time and now it is time to clear the space.

In the meantime I have had such a great time here on the island. Connecting with my family-both assigned and chosen. I am so in love with the choices I am making, as lonely and scary as them sometimes feel.

 

Family

Today I post about FAMILY!!! Friday was a sad day for me. I had to leave the island. Originally I thought I would be spending Xmas by myself until Dimphy invited me over to spend the holidays with those I love the most. And it was amazing. The island is my happy place and these people my family. ❤️

 

What I did this holiday was put family first. And it helped me realize - My family is who I say they are. I don’t speak with my mom and have spent far too long not connecting to the family close to me already. And I realize I am missing out. My best friend of 20+ years, my bro and his wife, their kids and my Nimpo family. It could all just pass me by if I don’t make an effort!!!

  

So many people I know have dysfunctional families (like everyone, cuz what is normal?) and are upset because they want to be close to their mom or dad or siblings. And most of the time it is unhealthy to have those relationships. Remember that - your family is who you say they are. How sad to put expectations on those you know will never change & how exciting to be able to hand pick an even better family? To choose who you spend time with. Life doesn’t always go as planned, but you are blessed no matter your story!!! I miss you guys so much already.